I have a lot of thoughts and opinions about relationships. My relationships life can be summed up into either "OMG you are wearing an engagement ring!" or "You have been single for so long". In actuality, everyone else seems to be way more concerned about my lack of a partner than I am. I am fine being single. (fine is a wrong word, only people are not fine say they are fine.) I am good with being single.
Now that I’m fast approaching 30, it seems the panic and concern about lack of my love life is higher than ever. My family, friends and people who-I-don't-even-know-why-they-get-an-opinion-on-this are severely worried about my happiness, my finances, me passing the age where someone will want to marry me, age where I wont be able to have kids ...
So here is a list of some of reasons why I am currently single:
I am happy.
How many people do you that are genuinely happy? Who are content with life just as is?
I know one. Me.
I like my independence.
I placed my career first for a long time. This brought on the need for independence. I like staying up late at night, reading books, watching entire Netflix series in one weekend, not putting pants on if I don't want to, paining the hallway way I want it, ordering in all week and sleeping diagonally across my bed just because I can.
Its a choice.
Marriage is for many people, I am not one of them. I don't want to change my last name, I don't want children, I don't see the need for a wedding or wearing rings. If I wanted to spend my life with someone, I want to do it just because I want to be with them more than anything, not so I can say I am married or it fit in my 5 to 10 year plan. Recently I pictured myself in a serious relationship and It gave me a panic attack thinking of all of the things I would miss about my current way of life. If I am being honest, its not that there aren't men who are amazing and wonderful around, fact I am still single is a choice. I chose not to let anyone in.
Casualty of wrong place wrong time.
You know how people say there is someone for everyone, well I think the person who makes me smile, gives me butterflies, laughs at my horrible jokes and brings me chocolate walked in and walked right out of my life because I made that choice for him.
Its OK to be single.
Might not be way many see it, and it might be different BUT its ok.
So there you have it.
